最烦人的正是所谓"小事"。上班路上的堵车,各种噪音和烦闷的环境都在掐死我们原本平和的心境。当我们不再平静的时候,也会尝试着去努力稳定自己的情绪。而当情绪终于也失控了,人就会完完全全被周围环境支配。我们开始更在意其他人,于是会毫不犹豫地回应他人的冒犯。而在内心平和的时候,我们思考的更多的是别人动机和目的,而不是别人怎么看自己怎么想自己。
怎样才能达到内心的平和?内心平和不依靠外界获得。平和是一种哪怕外界正在拼命消耗和掏空我们的时候,我们仍然可以保持和平衡自己的状态。如何保持平和的心境?主动减少自身肾上腺素的分泌,以平静的方式去工作。肾上腺素激活情绪,点燃怒气,让我们变得就像猛兽盯着猎物一样,随时会出击。如果我们总保持着肾上腺素满格的状态,它带来的压力是致命的。肾上腺素有很有用,但是平时一般都用不到,战斗或者逃跑的时候可能用得上。但是我们的常态,是保持平静。
在平静的而不是心神不宁的心境中工作很重要。不论是做什么,都要让心境不受打扰,远离忧虑。哪怕是DDL临近,也要平静地工作。压力对清晰的思维和更高的效率毫无贡献。平和是一种姿态。任何时候都不要让自己进入焦虑的状态中,和负能量的朋友保持距离,不要和总是批评指责你的人结婚。
爱自己,就从停止焦虑开始,把那些烦扰的小时减到最少,让平和的心境不断延伸。
Working from a position of rest
We may get frustrated by many little things in life. On the way to work, traffic jams, noises, distractions can affect our peace. Without peace, we may feel to control our emotions. When we are unable to control our emotions, we get affected by the environment. We react to people's insults, we take people too seriously. With inner peace, we enlarge our people motives - lesser of what people think and feel of us.
How do we achieve peace? Peace cannot be given to us by others. Peace is a state that we maintain within ourselves even when others try to rob us of it. How do we maintain peace? Reduce adrenaline, work from a position of rest. Adrenaline pumps up our mood, it makes us angrier and adrenaline gives clarity, just like an animal hunting for food. Adrenaline is not the usual state of mind. Stress resulting from adrenaline kills if we allow adrenaline to fill us up often. Adrenaline has its uses, but it is not the usual state. You need it in a fight or flight situation. But always maintain a position of rest.
Working from a position of restfulness not restlessness is important. Whatever you are doing, let not your heart be troubled. Let not your heart be stressed. If you are near a deadline, work from a state of restfulness. Not an inch of stress can help you thjnk cleaner and work faster. Yes, rather lose your job than get stressed daily. Rest is a position. Do not allow yourself to get into a position of stress. Simply avoid friends with negativity. Do not marry the guy who convicts and condemns you.
Love yourself. Start everything from a position of stress. Minimize the smaller things in life, enlarge and bring to importance peace.