跨国寻爱,中国大妈勇敢追求第二春

反感国内严苛的社会环境,中国的中年女性更愿跨国寻求真爱。
 
2017年,长沙晚报报道过一个美丽的跨国爱情故事。
 
芳姐是一个来自湖南的普通女孩,因早期遭受了太深的伤害而决定不再结婚。2009年她前往深圳决定重新发展事业。在一次国际珠宝饰品展会上,一个陌生的美国男子主动帮她拍照。然而因为语言不通,双方结束后并无交流。2013年,芳姐远嫁美国的妹妹被邀请去参加女同学家的晚餐,宴会的男主人还邀请了他的一位男同事。在餐桌上,他们聊到中国美食。该男同事感慨,曾经对一个中国女孩一见钟情,但当时没勇气追求,否则他可能已经享受了多年的中国美食了。而后玩笑中大家让妹妹把芳姐介绍给他。没想到一看照片,该男子惊呆了,照片居然就是多年前他拍的那张,照片中的人原来就是他曾经一见钟情的女孩。
 
故事的后续很圆满,芳姐被他的真诚和坚持所打动。如今他们俩生活在休斯顿,并在抖音好看视频B同步自己的生活(账号#芳姐和王子)。
 
 
如今随着交通和网络的发达,越来越多跨国婚姻出现在普通人的生活圈里。与传统的因为留学或者跨境工作结缘不同的是,如今有许多中国中年女性通过网络开展轰轰烈烈的第二春。即使语言、文化和距离等困难重重,她们依然愿意勇敢的追寻真爱。
 
为何舍近求远?
 
国内的舆论环境对大龄单身女性不是很友好。即使这些年已有很大改善,但在经济欠发达地区依然严重。
  1. 国内男性更多希望找年轻的女性,看重女性的容貌和年龄。如果男性自身条件有所缺欠,又希望找经济条件良好的女性来帮扶。
  2. 传宗接代的观念让生育率偏低的中年女性不被看好。中国家庭一般希望有自己的子女,不愿领养或者丁克。
  3. 传统道德观念对离异或者丧偶的中年女性比较苛刻。离异的女性容易受到歧视,人们常把家庭问题归结到她们身上。而丧偶的女性通常需要保持忠诚,再婚意味着背叛,容易引起非议。
而身居国外可以远离这样的舆论环境,让人更能遵循内心,找到自己想要的生活。这也十分契合中年女性的想法,她们思想更加成熟,不愿为了过日子而将就,希望找到真正的灵魂伴侣。思想更为开化的外国家庭也明显对受过伤害的中国女性更加包容,包括她们的孩子。
 
中国民政部公布的数据,涉外婚姻登记(包括港台及华侨)数量近年稳步上升中,与连续下降的国内婚姻登记率成鲜明对比。
 
 
 
勤劳能干的中国女性
 
东方女性的传统和神秘一直是一种奇特的诱惑。当然,不少外国人士有自己的担忧: “听说不少年轻女孩拿婚姻当跳板,拿到绿卡就走人了。”相比之下,他们觉得有家庭责任感的中年女性更加迷人。
 
勤劳,能干,坚韧,这些传统中国美德在中年女性身上尤为显著。她们有着浓厚的家庭观念,以照顾家人为已任。中国人眼里的家庭不仅是夫妻子女,更包括父母,兄弟姐妹等其他亲人。她们致力于拥有一个和谐温暖的大家庭。
 
对内,她们包揽几乎所有家庭琐事,把生活安排得井井有条。每个中年女性都是一个中餐大厨,吃光她们做的饭菜就是对她们最大的夸奖。
 
当然,中国的中年女性不是温顺的小绵羊,她们擅长管理家庭,喜欢把每个家庭成员的生活安排好。这对她们的家人来说,也算是一种甜蜜的负担。
 
对外,她们愿意分担家庭负担,挣钱改善家庭生活。勤奋让她们习惯忙碌,一有精力和机会,她们就会工作充实自己。很多旅居国外的女性最开始只是热心的帮国内的亲朋好友带货,然后慢慢发展成自己的事业,忙得不可开交。
 
图片来源:新浪新闻

跨国婚恋现状

如今有很多远嫁异乡的女性在网络上分享自己的生活。她们真实的记录让更多人了解到国外普通人的生活情况。也鼓励了很多女性放开自己的选择,鼓起勇气跨国寻找真爱。
 
这个巧妙的商机自然不会被聪明的企业忽视。如今国内外有许多中介专门为有这类需求的人士牵线搭桥,创造机会。而更多的情况是,大家在网络上分享自己的生活,或者在网络世界活动时,意外的获得了契合的灵魂。许多软件的国际化助推了这种可能,比如陌陌,微信,抖音。它们通常自带翻译功能,即使语言不通也可以毫无压力的聊天。甚至还有许多人通过游戏找到共同话题,进而发展成情侣、夫妻。


不容忽视的问题

追求真爱的同时,大家还是得留意跨国婚姻中可能存在的问题。
  1. 从网络到现实是艰难的第一步。纯情感的聊天和日常生活相处有很大区别。即使同属一个地区,两个人相处也需要长时间的磨合才能融洽。
  2. 语言不通是最大的阻碍,大部分中国人的外语不是很好。而中年人的学习速度下降,学习一门新的语言需要很长时间。
  3. 文化差异存在于生活的每一个角落里,这也需要时间才能发现。
  4. 政治环境也会对跨国家庭有一定的影响。
在开启一段新的旅程之前,这些问题都需要充分考虑好。只有提前做好心理准备,才能避免没必要的争吵和失望,不影响未来的生活。

China’s Online Sex Scam that Many Fall Prey To

A man lost nearly US$1 million in few minutes due to a nude chat scam. Discover how these scams work and how to stay away from them.
 
With the rapid growth of the Internet, digital fraud has accelerated and grown even more sophisticated. Nude chat, a scam that mainly targets men, has been one of China's most rampant telecom frauds. As prostitution is illegal in China, many men resort to online hookups to satisfy their sexual desires. This makes them the perfect target for nude chat scams.
 
According to the official Weibo account, from December 2020 to January 2021, the police station in Jiangsu Province has received 243 reports of nude chat scamsChina Judgements Online announced that among the cases, 41 of them involve sextortion, and at least 2,000 people were extorted for over RMB 24.7 million (US$3.9 million).  

Source: Kalika News
 
How does nude chat scams work?
 
In a nude chat scam, scammers impersonate attractive women and explicitly chat with the male victims. The nude video call will be conducted on an app, where the scammers can screen record, retrieve the victim’s personal information, and use it to blackmail the victims. Once the victims give in, the sextortion will turn into an endless vicious cycle. 
 
According to a case published by Jiangsu News, a man named Zhang added an online female friend through WeChat. The woman started flirting with Zhang and convinced him to download "Moko", a social app where they had their nude video call.
 
Upon ending the video call, the woman blackmailed Zhang with his naked pictures and recordings, accompanied by a list of his close contacts. Afterwards, she threatened Zhang to transfer money immediately. Otherwise, she would send the video to his friends and relatives, ruining his reputation.  
 
Zhang started to panic, and so he transferred RMB 100,000 through WeChat. Soon after, Zhang was continuously blackmailed for hush money and various other reasons. In the end, he spent a total of RMB 630,000 (US$98,437.5). Feeling helpless, Zhang finally reported the case to the police. 

 
Is it possible to outsmart the scammers?  
 
Although the scam is simple, it has been around China for many years with many successful frauds. This led to some people thinking about ways to outsmart the scammers. For example, the scam would not work if the victim only sent naked pictures without showing his face or using a phone number without any personal contact. Some even think they are poor enough to be away from fraud. 
 
However, according to the information collected by @Jiangning Public Security Online, the scammers have their system of finding a perfect target. Therefore, they will not waste time on targets that do not fulfil their requirements.

 
The harsh truth is that the videos sent by the scammers are prerecorded. Those attractive women chatting with the victims are, in fact, men. They use fake skin to pose as naked women during the nude video calls. In addition, most scammers work in groups with a clear work allocation. It is therefore impossible to trick the scammers and benefit from the sexual services they provide.

 
Source: people.cn
Women victims exist too
 
What is even more shocking is that women may also fall victim to nude chat scams. Although more women are more likely to be blackmailed by their former partners with intimate photos or videos, there is still a tiny proportion of women extorted by strangers. According to SMGNEWS, several women in Jilin Province reported to the police that an online friend threatened them in March. The scammer lied that he has a sexual disorder that needs nude chats as a form of treatment. As the woman gave in to his request, the scammer recorded the naked video call and threatened the victims for money. 
 
Are the police doing anything? 
 
Most scammers have sneaked to other countries with Southeast Asia as their main destination to escape from China's crackdown. However, because of the COVID-19 pandemic, the Chinese police cannot go out of China to arrest them, while the overseas police have no time to deal with these scammers. 
 
Many victims pour out their experiences of being scammed online, but few of them think of filing a police report. Based on the online discussion forums, turning to the police seems to be a last resort. With privacy being in the hands of scammers, many victims are afraid of being exposed. As a result, most of them treat it as a hard-learned lesson instead.
 
How to stay away from nude chat scams?  
 
From an individual’s perspective, online users are advised to stay vigilant and avoid naked chat of all forms. Some individuals like to make new friends through the “shake” function on Wechat or social networking apps like “Soul” and “MOMO”. Extra precaution is needed on these platforms.

 
 
Governments also need to strengthen both the publicity and the crackdown. They should find a way to raise public awareness of nude chat scams. Some communities and schools make banners on nude chat scam headlines and hang them in the public area: "In this community, XX was cheated of RMB XX because of a nude chat scam." Such banners can warn people to stay away from nude chat while informing the public that telecom frauds exist in their daily lives. Therefore, no one should try to push their luck when it comes to nude chat.

裸聊,经典骗局,多人受骗

几分钟被骗63万,裸聊害人不浅。本文解析裸聊套路,助您远离诈骗。
 
随着这些年网络的发达,诈骗也与时俱进的发展出各种新手段。裸聊,作为一种以男性为主要受害者的诈骗手段,在这些年非常猖獗。因色情行业在中国的非法性,许多男性利用网络猎艳来满足自己的需求,自然他们成了这种诈骗手段的绝佳目标。
 
根据南京市公安局江宁分局的官方微博@江宁公安在线公布的数据,从2020121日到20211月底,该局共接到裸聊诈骗报警243起。而在中国裁判文书网公布的案件中,涉及裸聊敲诈的共41起,至少两千余人累计被敲诈2469万余元。
 
图片来源:Kalika News
 
裸聊的基本套路
 
根据“江苏新闻”公布的一个案件,2021510日,一位张先生通过微信添加了一名女网友。张先生没有经受住言语挑逗,在女网友的诱导下,下载了一款“MOKO”聊天软件,双方在该软件上进行了视频裸聊。
 
结束后,女网友将张先生的裸聊视频和通讯录号码截图回传,威胁张先生给其转账,不然就将视频发给张先生的亲朋好友,让其身败名裂。
 
惊慌失措的张先生六神无主,只能照做,通过微信给对方转账10万元。然而噩梦还没有结束,在接下来的时间里,张先生又被以封口费、买断视频等各种理由陆续敲诈了总计63万元!张先生无奈之下,主动到公安机关报警。

图片来源:微博号@江苏新闻

整个骗局其实很简单,骗子假扮美女与受害者聊天,然后通过所谓的APP套取个人信息,再利用个人不雅照进行威胁。而受害者一旦妥协,那将是个无底洞。
 
有无可能反套路骗子呢?
 
一个如此简单的骗局却能在中国发展多年,并且成功率很高,自然引发很多网友的质疑,甚至有人觉得自己可以反套路骗子。                
 
比如说,只要不露脸,就算有不雅照也没关系;用没有通讯录的新手机号;没钱不怕被骗;等等。根据@江宁公交在线整理的资料,对于这些想法,骗子们自然有他们的应对办法:


而更加残酷的真相是,骗子发出来的视频基本都是提前录制好的。与受害者聊天的漂亮女主播基本都是男性。而且他们大都是团伙,各自有着明确的分工。总之,骗子是不可能让你平白无故的享受到福利的。
 
图片来源:人民网
 
女性也可能受害
 
而更让人震惊的是,女性也能成为裸聊的受害者。虽然现实中更多的女性是被曾经的亲密对象用私密照片或者视频勒索,但依然有少数过度善良的女性在网络上被陌生人套取私密信息。根据SMGNEWS的消息,今年3月以来,吉林有多名女性报警,称自己在网上被哄骗录制了裸聊视频及照片,遭威胁索取钱财。对方称自己身体有病,性这方面有些问题,需要女性裸聊帮忙治疗。
 
为何越发猖獗,警方不处理吗?
 
为了逃避打击,大部分诈骗团伙选择偷渡至国外,主要是东南亚一带,再从事犯罪活动。而因为疫情的原因,国内的警察无法外出抓捕,而国外的警察也没空处理这些。
 
如果在搜索引擎输入“裸聊”,除了大量相关案件外,还有很多受害者发布的求助信息。而让人迷惑的是,大批网友在一起倾诉被骗的经历,然后反思或者讨论时,很少有人想到要报警,大部分人觉得就当花钱买个教训。很多受害者因为隐私被掌握在他人手里,害怕被曝光,出于面子问题不愿报警,甚至不配合侦查。还有的觉得自己也有错,害怕自己也会受到处罚。
 
如何远离诈骗?
 
从个人来说,提高警惕,不要裸聊,不要有侥幸心理,这样才能从源头杜绝被诈骗。
 
图片来源:网易号#宿迁警方
 
而政府也需加大宣传、打击力度,找准宣传点,真正赢得普通民众对这类事件的关注。例如有些小区或者学校会把受害者的受骗过程制成横幅挂出来:“本小区XXXX住户因裸聊被诈骗XX元”。这样,一方面可以告诫受害者不要有侥幸心理进行裸聊,另一方面,更能警醒群众,网络诈骗真实存在,与我们的日常生活如此贴近,必须时刻保持警惕。

 

Mid-Form Videos: The Better Alternative for Chinese Video Platforms?

Find out why mid-form videos are popping off on Chinese video platforms and what this video concept offers.
 
Online video platforms such as Tik Tok, Kwai or iQIYI have all started to publicize bite-sized dramas on their home page. The Chinese video streaming industry calls these skits “medium-length videos” or “mid-form videos”. This concept, formally introduced in October 2020 by Watermelon Video's CEO Ren Lifeng, is now trending on all major video platforms in China.

Source: 36kr.com
 
Mid-form videos
 
According to Ren Lifeng, a typical mid-form video will have the following characteristics: 
  • The video duration can be anything between 1-30 minutes, but a length of 5-15 minutes is more commonly seen. 
  • The video content has depth. There are currently two types of content: popular science and summarized versions of long-form videos.
  • The video creator has professional knowledge and experience.
  • The video has a more refined production. Although it may not be very professional, the content arrangement, picture layout, clarity and subtitles are of higher quality.
Why are online video platforms pushing for mid-form videos?
 
Based on the definition above, mid-form video is not a new concept for sure. So what then can explain the mid-form video’s rising popularity on all Chinese streaming platforms?
1. Short-form and long-form video’s limited profitability
 
The one-minute duration of short-form videos constrains the depth of content covered and makes it hard to weave in advertisements. The platforms are also finding it hard to maintain user engagement due to the homogenization of content overly focused on entertainment.
 
On the other hand, long-form video platforms have been burning their money for copyright issues over the years, while short-form video platforms eat up part of their market share. As a result, these platforms have suffered continuous losses, and the trend is expected to continue.
 
2. Witnessing the success of YouTube
 
YouTube is dominated by mid-form videos, with an average video length of about 15 minutes. Even though YouTube faces fierce competition from other short video platforms, it can still maintain its user size at a compound growth rate of 21.56%. The success of YouTube’s mid-form video model has attracted other platforms to follow suit. 
 
3. 5G Technology and changing consumption habits
 
With 5G technology, platforms can stream videos at a higher definition, fluency, and lower cost. As a result, consumers are no longer satisfied with short videos that are mainly for entertainment. According to the Professional Development Report of Mid-form Video Creators released by Watermelon Video and Newrank, about 70% of mid-form video users want to develop skillsets and enrich themselves. Therefore, high-quality video content will better meet the needs of this changing consumption habit.
 
The growing demand for mid-form videos
 
According to the Professional Development Report of Mid-form Video Creators, the number of high-frequency video users in 2020 has reached 605 million with a penetration rate of 64%. Therefore, compared to the total volume of Chinese Internet users (940 million) and the penetration rate of online video users (95%), there is sufficient room for the growth of mid-form videos. 
 
The 2020 Annual Mid-form Video Platform Market Research Report released by Bigdata Research shows that the daily consumption time per capita for mid-form videos in 2020 has increased significantly, exceeding 100 minutes in December 2020. In addition, demand for 10-20 minutes long videos grew by 10.7%.  
In terms of age, 78% of medium video users are under 30 years old. Among them, those with a college degree or above account for more than 45%.  
In addition, user preference differs among different age groups. For example, the post-00s generation prefer videos on cute pets, slimes, and other niche categories; the post-90s generation like to watch unboxing videos about clothes, new electronic games, and commentary; the post-80s prefer sharing of household products and funny jokes, while the post-70s love cute children and romantic dramas.  
 
A highly competitive market
 
In recent years, the mid-form video market has emerged as a battlefield strongly contended by existing players.
July 2019: Kwai extended its video recording time to 5-10 minutes. Less than a month later, Tik Tok also allowed videos to stream up to 15 minutes.
 
April 2020: iQIYI launched a video streaming product named "Suike", which aims to be the Chinese YouTube. This was followed by a collaborative move between iQIYI and Baidu, allowing users to use one account and access both platform's videos.
 
July 2020: Weibo launched a plan worth RMB 500 million (US$78.1) to support mid-form video creators. A month later, both Xianghongshu and WeChat added features to support the streaming of mid-form videos.
  
October 2020: Zhihu launched a "video" section, focusing on knowledge-based videos of more than one minute. Baidu launched an independent App, "Baidu Kankan", which focuses on mid-form video streaming. Watermelon Video announced that it would spend at least RMB 2 billion (US$0.3 billion) to help video creators improve their content quality in the next year.  
 
December 2020: Tencent Video jumped on the bandwagon and started to stream mid-form videos.  
 
A better alternative for video platforms?
 
Although mid-form video serves as a strategic growth point in the video streaming industry, its future remains uncertain. Quibi, a video platform streaming short plays over the years, has failed and left the market. Bilibili, known for its diverse range of mid-form videos, continues to make losses.

In terms of content production, while short-form videos are dominated by User Generated Content (UGC), mid-form videos with higher content depth requirements mainly rely on Professional Generated Content (PGC). However, depending solely on a narrow scope of PGC risks repeating the unsuccessful path of Quibi. This is why video platforms need to produce diversified content to attract users continuously.

Yet, most Chinese video platforms, especially those focusing on long-form videos, do not have an ecosystem as comprehensive as Bilibili for content creation. Few merchants are willing to cooperate with content creators for ads or live streaming e-commerce. Even though mid-form video platforms promise content creators guaranteed salaries plus commission, their incomes remain pretty volatile. Most of them rely on subsidies from the platforms' incentive plans.
In addition, viewers of mid-form videos are more loyal to the content creators than the video platform itself. This means that once the content creators switch from one platform to another, the viewers will also follow suit. 

YouTube as a mid-form video platform is successful because of its developed business model consisting of Professional User Generated Content (PUGC), content consumption by users, advertising revenue and income from viewership. In contrast, Chinese mid-form video platforms are still at their experimental stage. Compared to the typical long dramas, it is harder to attract investments and viewership for mid-from skits due to the limited clout.
Chen Rui, the CEO of Bilibili, questioned the concept of mid-form videos, as he believes that the length of the video does not matter. Instead, it should be about whether the viewers like the video content or not, regardless of the video length.

The success of the mid-form video concept remains to be seen. Time will testify the ideal content suitable for mid-form videos, its profitability and how mid-form video platforms should operate.